Isaac
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Boy, does this article explain [what we already knew] a lot about the current state of certain things in our society - quite fascinating.
As usual, it's "studies have shown" coming 75 years after anyone with common sense already knew this, but, ya know, some people like a Study before they believe anything!
Those who are taught from a young age that "everyone is out to get you, everyone hates you because of X___ thing, everyone is holding you back, if you don't get what you want it's their fault"............Those people, magically, tend to FIND that imagined oppression EVERYWHERE. You can tell as soon as you pass them, it's that defiant "you lookin at me?!?" attitude. It's the bitterness and frustration caused by decades of believing that the way your day goes, or your month, year, career, or bank account must be everyone else's fault. Despite the fact that we all know what the inputs/ingredients of those outcomes are, and they are about .001% connected to anyone else's choices.
I don't own a home? It's because of what Dad taught me, "they" are holding me back
I don't make as much money as my neighbor did? It must be because "my bosses hate me because of that thing"
... Rather than, I don't own a home b/c my credit score wasn't good enough, because I didn't pay my bills back. I don't make as much money as my neighbor does because I haven't made the smart and hard decisions they have for long enough yet.
Thinking about these issues now, I have to be very grateful, honestly. It is not to my credit that I escaped this type of worldview. It's to my parents' credit.
As young people on the verge of growing up, we were never taught to even dream that our consequences were anyone else's. They were ours.
When I struggled for a few years in middle age, I knew why, and I looked inward to solve the problems.
If we can get our society back to that sense of personal responsibility, boy would we have a lot more happier, successful people. Who would then be more likely to get along as a by-product.
As usual, it's "studies have shown" coming 75 years after anyone with common sense already knew this, but, ya know, some people like a Study before they believe anything!
New Psychological Research Calls Out A Potentially Harmful Parenting Technique
Passing on a negative ‘primal world belief’ may distort your child’s worldview forever.
www.forbes.com
The truth, however, is very different. Previous studies have shown that people who tend to see the world as dangerous overreact to threats and see threats that aren’t there.
Those who are taught from a young age that "everyone is out to get you, everyone hates you because of X___ thing, everyone is holding you back, if you don't get what you want it's their fault"............Those people, magically, tend to FIND that imagined oppression EVERYWHERE. You can tell as soon as you pass them, it's that defiant "you lookin at me?!?" attitude. It's the bitterness and frustration caused by decades of believing that the way your day goes, or your month, year, career, or bank account must be everyone else's fault. Despite the fact that we all know what the inputs/ingredients of those outcomes are, and they are about .001% connected to anyone else's choices.
I don't own a home? It's because of what Dad taught me, "they" are holding me back
I don't make as much money as my neighbor did? It must be because "my bosses hate me because of that thing"
... Rather than, I don't own a home b/c my credit score wasn't good enough, because I didn't pay my bills back. I don't make as much money as my neighbor does because I haven't made the smart and hard decisions they have for long enough yet.
Thinking about these issues now, I have to be very grateful, honestly. It is not to my credit that I escaped this type of worldview. It's to my parents' credit.
As young people on the verge of growing up, we were never taught to even dream that our consequences were anyone else's. They were ours.
When I struggled for a few years in middle age, I knew why, and I looked inward to solve the problems.
If we can get our society back to that sense of personal responsibility, boy would we have a lot more happier, successful people. Who would then be more likely to get along as a by-product.