I'm with Pat Hartman on this one.
Windows implements a basic security rule called "process isolation" (or some similar name). There is a long history of why this is so, but I'll skip the "why" and get straight to the "how" details:
A running process is not allowed to affect ANY PART of the operation of another (different) running process unless BOTH processes were designed ahead of time to support such an operation. When you throw in "on another machine" then the processes have to establish a network link - a socket, in common terms - so they can connect to each other.
Everytime i want to run a database and use 2 different PC's i want to synchronise the other pc for common things like 'login' or changing values in controlfields on the remote form.
"Process isolation" says "No" to that UNLESS you design a specific type of interface for both processes.
The normal interface for any Access app is the Keyboard/Video/Mouse (KVM) combination, which get assigned to the internal task IN, OUT, and CMD channels (not necessarily in that order). If you want a process to respond to some action, intervening via the KVM connections would likely sever the "normal" connection to the three critical channels, leaving the intervened process uncontrolled. To preserve the KVM connections, you would have to open a connection through a fourth non-standard channel. One method is network-oriented - a network socket, as mentioned earlier.
It is also forbidden to try to step into and alter the memory of another process, again unless a formal shared communication channel was set up. Even so, an in-memory method exists. The Windows MailBox (not to be confused with elements of more formal e-mail products) is an API-controlled pseudo-device that resides in memory. It can be used to communicate between two processes, but communication IS a two-way street, so BOTH processes need to be aware of this method AND they have to have a formal way of handshaking before doing ANYTHING over such a channel. I don't recall whether the MB device can cross network links.
Without a socket or mailbox device, the only point normally in common between the two machines would be the shared back-end, and if that is a "native Access" back-end, it is strictly passive. That is, the DB's BE file is a FILE; there is no attached DB engine there. There is nothing running on the BE's host to actually implement a data macro action. That data macro that was being discussed in other threads won't do any better if you consider where the active database engine resides. The DB engine is
attached to the FE's Workspace, it only
links to the BE file. Before you say "but Access IS running on the other machine" ... yes. It is running against the FE file. This separation of connection is one of the implications of using Server Message Block (SMB) protocol as the Windows File and Printer Sharing protocol. Unfortunately, that is the way Access was designed so there is no simple way around it.
I know my response makes it sound like this is impossible. It is not. The key is to recognize that ordinary Access methods are quite limited with regard to process interactions. Doing what you want will require some design work to draw out the details of what you need to do to have the desired effect. These details WILL involve a non-standard form of communication between cooperating DBs. The details WILL NOT include a method that violates Windows process isolation rules.