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"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is a familiar admonition. The problem there is that we don't come with a Parent's Manual either built-in or published somewhere. The Bible doesn't offer advice about how hard or how often to apply said anti-spoiling rod. Therefore, there is an inherently slippery slope regarding corporal punishment. How much will be ineffective? How much is enough? How much is too much? How do we tell from one child to another? I don't know but I pretty much guarantee that it's a moving target for which the best shot is no shot at all, and pick something other than a rod for discipline.
That has not been my observation, but I will also add that there is this little factor - that before the Obergefell vs. Hodges decision (Supreme Court of the US, 2015), gay marriage was not permitted and gays lived together facing all sorts of laws aimed against same-sex cohabitation with a non-blood-related person who wasn't also a tenant. Prior to Obergefell, gays couldn't even legally live together without the fear of prosecution and persecution. Which begs the question of whether your impression of promiscuity was a case of people taking that which was available to them at the time because the stability they wanted was denied them. I don't know, but it is a question that must be asked. And if you look, you see that the clubs where nubile young girls and virile young lechers congregate for straight interactions also seem quite numerous. You see promiscuity because you expect it. I won't say it doesn't happen, but your statements betray that expectation, and such expectations lead to confirmation bias.
I believe you are incorrect about this, and your negative attitude regarding women's intentions suggest you may have had a bad time of it as a younger man. I suspect your view is jaundiced by your prior interactions - for which I cannot chastise you too much if true, because in that case you came across those viewpoints through the school of hard knocks - the best and the worst teacher there is. However, my experience with women is different than yours. One of my jobs before I took on the Navy contracting job sat me in the same office with a gay guy who unfortunately DID sometimes come up against the guys who want rough sex. Your comment about "gays being on a more equal footing" is therefore somewhat inaccurate.
Yes, absolutely true with every gay person I have ever met so far. But if you believe this, then your discussion regarding 500 self-identified gay men tends to fly in the face of this comment.
You ACTUALLY LISTEN to CNN? It is a known, "woke" rag of a news organization that thrives on sensationalist stories to get ratings.
Yet, if you wanted to assert that "to generalize across all parents who hit their children, there is more inappropriate violence than not", I would be receptive to that, although it stings, and although I hate to admit it.
"Spare the rod and spoil the child" is a familiar admonition. The problem there is that we don't come with a Parent's Manual either built-in or published somewhere. The Bible doesn't offer advice about how hard or how often to apply said anti-spoiling rod. Therefore, there is an inherently slippery slope regarding corporal punishment. How much will be ineffective? How much is enough? How much is too much? How do we tell from one child to another? I don't know but I pretty much guarantee that it's a moving target for which the best shot is no shot at all, and pick something other than a rod for discipline.
I feel comfortable saying that if you and I were able to randomly sample 500 self-identified gay men, they themselves would agree with my interpretation and observation and at least state that they 'believe' (how would we definitely measure? but at least they have the same impression)......that taken on average, as a whole, the gay population is more promiscuous than the straight one.
That has not been my observation, but I will also add that there is this little factor - that before the Obergefell vs. Hodges decision (Supreme Court of the US, 2015), gay marriage was not permitted and gays lived together facing all sorts of laws aimed against same-sex cohabitation with a non-blood-related person who wasn't also a tenant. Prior to Obergefell, gays couldn't even legally live together without the fear of prosecution and persecution. Which begs the question of whether your impression of promiscuity was a case of people taking that which was available to them at the time because the stability they wanted was denied them. I don't know, but it is a question that must be asked. And if you look, you see that the clubs where nubile young girls and virile young lechers congregate for straight interactions also seem quite numerous. You see promiscuity because you expect it. I won't say it doesn't happen, but your statements betray that expectation, and such expectations lead to confirmation bias.
However, straight people cannot engage in sex with major safety concerns - usually the female more concerned with exploitation, deception and assault than the male. However, gays can engage in this without that paradigm, as they are of the same gender and tend to start out from a slightly more equal footing.
I believe you are incorrect about this, and your negative attitude regarding women's intentions suggest you may have had a bad time of it as a younger man. I suspect your view is jaundiced by your prior interactions - for which I cannot chastise you too much if true, because in that case you came across those viewpoints through the school of hard knocks - the best and the worst teacher there is. However, my experience with women is different than yours. One of my jobs before I took on the Navy contracting job sat me in the same office with a gay guy who unfortunately DID sometimes come up against the guys who want rough sex. Your comment about "gays being on a more equal footing" is therefore somewhat inaccurate.
Straights and gays probably want about the same contents of life, on the whole.
Yes, absolutely true with every gay person I have ever met so far. But if you believe this, then your discussion regarding 500 self-identified gay men tends to fly in the face of this comment.
You had CNN running articles bemoaning the awful Racism, Sexism, Asian-ism, and any other 'ism they could think of, to think that a white man DARE make such a conclusion about this parlor that he, by all accounts, hadn't been to himself.
You ACTUALLY LISTEN to CNN? It is a known, "woke" rag of a news organization that thrives on sensationalist stories to get ratings.
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