You're seeing things in a very balanced way and I'm impressed by your reasoning.
Why thank you.
I don't feel comfortable insulting a concept with full knowledge of how certain good people are personally engaged with it.
I know what you mean, but with religion it is almost impossible not to do so. Various religions are diametrically opposed; if you think one is correct, the other cannot be. By labeling yourself a member of a particular religion, you are, in essence, saying that all of the other religions are wrong.
I'm not a religious person, never have been, and I'm quite convinced that I never will be. I do find religion incredibly interesting as an academic subject. Reading about what people believe, or have believed in the past, the ceremonies, edicts, rules, etc, of various religious organizations. All of that is very interesting to me and I have spent many a day reading through articles on religion as well as religious books themselves. I'm also an amateur author and I have tried to make the religions in my fantasy worlds more life-like, and thus draw inspiration from real life sources.
However, when it comes to real, day-to-day life, I can honestly say that it disturbs me that some people truly believe in their religion. I like to think reality is objective. But throw religion into the mix and it no longer is.
I honestly believe that religion as a whole serves to separate and divide people rather than bring them together. I'd love to see religion's influence disappear and have it replaced by a general sense of community where people care about people just because they are other people living on the same planet, going through the same stuff. Not because a book told them so.
I say all these things knowing that some people will take offense to my words. Do I want to make them feel bad? No. But I would like them to think about it. I truly think my way would lead to happier people, and a better life in general for all.
Now, I also like to try to see things from all sides. I know that someone could be religious, and they could be taking some of the same actions I am (with a religious spin), and be expecting the same results. They likely do think that if they spread their religion, if more people accepted it and lived by the rules in their book, it would lead to happier people, and a better life in general for all.
That's why I never attack the person. Some one may be religious for no other reason than that they were raised by a family that was religious. But to them it is important. They are viewing their religion as an integral part of their life. Asking them to analyze their religion alone is almost impossible for them to do because it is a part of who they are, rather than what they believe.
So I'll continue trying to debate, teach, give examples, etc, as to why I think religion is a bad thing. And they will continue to do the same to show why it is a good thing.
In summary, I don't think religious people are bad people, I just think their religion is a bad thing. And I think if they were able to objectively look at their religion, they would start to come to the same conclusion.
Anyway hats off to you for keeping level on a very turbulent thread.
And to you.