Let me be frank here...

[prabha_friend]

Why my mind is always rehearsing a conversation especially associated with some threats... How to stop it? Or come out of it? Is it common? Ready to seek medical advice if immediate attention is required. Please help.

 

[The_Doc_Man]

I think it is human nature to try to anticipate things. You see it as strange. I see it as mentally exploring alternatives in hope of finding the good answers ahead of time. The "stream of consciousness" sometimes becomes a "whirlpool of confused consciousness" so you have limited choices when that happens. Either ride it out or try to escape it. You come out of it or stop it only with one of a few possible situations.

First, if you have a VERY disciplined mind, you can direct your thoughts elsewhere. Try reading a book or watching a movie. Distract yourself. Oddly enough, distraction might clear your mind enough that when the distraction is over, you might come up with a solution more readily.

Second, if the anticipated conversation/event/threat occurs - and passes - then you can move on to the next crisis. In which case you begin to second-guess yourself as to how you handled that last problem. (Gets you coming and going... the mind is funny like that.)

Third, you might seek medical advice if you start to obsess over the threat - but spiritual advisors can perhaps help. If you go for medical advice, ask anyone who prescribes a drug why that drug? But if they suggest one of the calming herbal tea concoctions, that CAN help sometimes. I often enjoy a good jasmine tea or a chamomile variety as a calming agent.

Fourth, if you have a really good friend, tell that person you have a problem to discuss. Then take that person to lunch or dinner and talk over the problem. I can only guess why, but being forced to speak out loud about a problem often brings it to a different level inside of you and sometimes helps. Forcing your mind to organize your thoughts well enough to speak them might help you solve the problem. Do that only with a good friend. I don't know your personal preferences and religious beliefs, but another variant of that solution is to take that good friend out and talk your way through the problem while you get stinkin' drunk together.

 

[AngelSpeaks]

I do that all the time. it's a coping mechanism.

 

[Isaac]

Threats meaning, like ... what exactly?
I've had instances where for some reason I picture a terrible, terrible thing happening to my family. For some reason the daydream continues to the point where I am misty-eyed, or else terrified. Then I think "what are you doing??" and I intentionally interrupt the thought to do something else.

One thing I have learned about troublesome thought patterns is this advice: Move a muscle, change a thought

You'd be surprised how easy it is to interrupt troublesome thoughts if you physically change your position/location/move etc.

 

[The_Doc_Man]

To be honest, I'm in the midst of a mental maelstrom of my own. I'm currently fighting the local government regarding a zoning variance. I have been rehearsing in my mind the best way to tell the people who came up with these zoning laws that they are idiots of the dumbest order - without ticking them off so much that they deny my zoning variance on general principles. There are nights when I lay awake trying to think of new and clever and yet not obviously insulting ways to insult their pants off.

Therefore, prabha_friend, I don't see your problem as earth-shaking.

 

[MarkK]

You'd be surprised how easy it is to interrupt troublesome thoughts if you physically change your position/location/move etc.

I think this is a really astute observation.

 

[prabha_friend]

Threats meaning, like ... what exactly?
I've had instances where for some reason I picture a terrible, terrible thing happening to my family. For some reason the daydream continues to the point where I am misty-eyed, or else terrified. Then I think "what are you doing??" and I intentionally interrupt the thought to do something else.

One thing I have learned about troublesome thought patterns is this advice: Move a muscle, change a thought

You'd be surprised how easy it is to interrupt troublesome thoughts if you physically change your position/location/move etc.

A barber got friendly with me. I got close with him as a friend and also an well-wisher for him. it's a peak time in my career. one day he wished a mobile phone from me for his birthday. I gifted him as promised. Slowly he started asking for more wishes on different occasions. Initially it was normal but when occasion after occasion passes by there is no other way than to judge him properly. I done a background on him through my various sources. All showed red flags. One time I refused his wish and sternly told him not to ask from me more. He said "Okay. Okay." in front of me. Gradually, Now I have come to that he is eyeing my property. He is pleading to me to rent him my house. But its clear in his eyes and behaviours he want to rent initially and not to vocate after that. He is waiting for father's demise to start working out his plans. His plots and my reactions are getting rehearsed in my mind for the past 6 months contiously.

 

[Isaac]

Yikes, sounds like you got too close to what we call a 'grifter', or goes by many other names - anyone who enjoys living off of other people's money, government welfare, friendships, etc. I would say you should block him entirely from your life if possible

 

[The_Doc_Man]

Prabha_friend, you are a good-hearted soul who sometimes trusts too much. Your good heart is your strength - AND your weakness. You should be less immediately trusting.

It sounds to me like your barber friend has heard about USA's circus entrepreneur from a century ago. P.T. Barnum was once quoted as saying "There's a sucker born every minute." Your barber seems to have found a sucker.

We have a movie called Field of Dreams in which a guy builds a baseball field in his corn field. A line from that movie is "If you build it, they will come." That line has been adopted into many variations in our culture. For instance, on Thanksgiving, my wife puts up her sign that says "If you feed them, they will come." In your case, if you start giving out gifts, your long-lost distant relatives - that you never even knew existed - will come.

I will give you some advice. It's free, so take it for what it is worth. If you have to give someone a gift and this gifting turns out to be one-sided, you would be justified in asking whether that person was your friend or a leech. Any friend I have to buy isn't a friend.

 

[SachAccess]

One thing I have learned about troublesome thought patterns is this advice: Move a muscle, change a thought
Great trick.