To be uncharacteristically brief: Maybe.
But if you wanted brief, you knew better than to ask me.
So here goes:
Even by
my standards, I have a lot to say on the subject, but I will try to avoid tangents or broadening the scope of the discusison. I would like to start out by saying that it is very difficult to discuss this topic on neutral terms since just about every word associated with the homosexuality has some kind of negative semantic. So if I use wording that carries implications with it please assume that those implications do not apply unless specifically stated.
Basically, you and Chad are both right and both wrong. Your point of view does not automatically qualify you as a closeted homosexual or insecure or homophobe or whatever. There are a lot of reasons why a person might have a negative opinion about homosexuality: personal morality, religious belief, a negative encounter with a homosexual, misconception/ignorance, insecurity, sexual identity issues, etc. Homophobia by reason of insecure sexuality is simply the most famous and most ironic example, and arguably the most prevalent. It is true that often a closeted homosexual will be the most visciously outspoken opponent of homosexual lifestyles, but it is logically invalid to infer the opposite.
On the other hand, I think that Chad has a point about the relationship between being confident with your own sexuality and being comfortable with other sexual preferences. People who have become comfortable with their own sexuality,
especially those who have "deviant" sexual preferences, tend to be very confident and open when it comes to sex (although this is not a guarantee, either). A year ago, I would have been freaked out by the idea of doing some of the things I did a month ago. But trying different things has helped me be more comfortable with things I didn't used to be, even if after I try them I can say, "That's not for me". But I now know the people who do enjoy them are not weird or freaks or wrong.
I hope that answers the question. It's so hard no to go into lengthy rants...
BTW, I think Chad deserves some respect in the area of psychology since he has a degree in the subject. I think his knowledge goes beyond someone who "thinks he's Dr. Phil" (like me
).
