For every gay man living a "happy, heterosexual" life you will find more who are totally miserable.
That statement can be true, and still fails to explain my family tree, doesn't even come close.
Any reasonable person, totally objective, would acknowledge that upbringing played a huge part in the whole deal - and probably meant that some people in the family tree who might have had a predisposition to ultimately have homosexual relations, were steered by upbringing, and ended up perfectly fine. Debunking the narrative that there is zero place in society to steer people in any direction.
There are many reasons it is in society's best interest to make reasonable attempts to steer children toward enjoying a normal heterosexual life.
The obvious natural fit of anatomy reminds us how mankind reproduces, how families are made and feel most together, we know genders compliment each other; every married person understands that a man and a woman need each other in ways feminism and misandry have attempted to dispel but have barely scratched the surface - all of these things are true, and the vast majority of heterosexual married people know that they are true. They also just so happen to coincide with God's design, and nature's obvious still-in-force workings of the male and female body.
There is also the subject of promiscuity and HIV, which despite the modern narrative which has attempted to skew this reality, homosexuality absolutely WAS one of the drivers of the expansion of aids, because the gay community tends to be more "anonymous/free/random sex" minded than the heterosexual community, whether you want to admit that or not.
Women have special qualities that children need; men have special qualities that children need from fathers, the disruption of this system has had very clear consequences - and painful ones for many.
All of this remains true, and can still be true, even though we realize that biology does play some part. If I can concede that, but you can't concede the obvious family tree outcome that upbringing plays a part, I don't know what else to say.
PS - very few legitimate studies on 'conversion' really exist, because the ethics code of the study-ers actually prescribes that activity being studied. Therefore all studies are skewed on this topic. Compassionate, responsible counseling for conversion had barely begun when many jurisdictions, and almost all mental health professional associations, prohibited it - in all forms, even such that would render data and information.
All you are left with is a resentful population, on whom conversion obviously was hurtful and/or unsuccessful, to study. That's no study at all, that's just a b** session.
We both know that successful conversions will never be studied, because nobody is going to go volunteer the information that "I've struggled with homosexual leanings for years, but I finally got the help I needed and now am happy in my heterosexual marriage". It's not something people publicize, but if you are someone like me who grew up in churches across the US, it's very much a thing. Largely unspoken and definitely undocumented, for obvious reasons. I can understand why people who didn't grow up and remain in church settings simply don't know about it. But I am telling you, so now you know.
