I can't speak for chergh, but as you have a very strong belief in the bible and in god, others have a very strong belief in facts. When you look at a situation or an issue, everything is filtered through your beliefs. You may feel that you understand the entirety of the bible, and thus certain elements of the scriptures (particular verses) may not mean what they appear to mean to someone who does not understand them.
I will freely admit that I am someone who does not understand the context of the bible. I've asked many religious people about various verses that seemed to be very harsh, violent, and evil, to be honest. They said much as you, that those verses are taken out of context.
When I asked them to explain the context, one person actually said "Things were different back when the bible was written". To which I asked "Isn't the bible supposed to be divinely-inspired by god? And if so, wouldn't he tell us how he wanted us to live?" No answer. Many others simply refused to explain the context.
I think I know how you feel. To you it all makes sense. To you, your entire life, your world, your perception, your morals, everything, revolves around your belief and your faith. You may not be able to explain it, but it makes sense, to you.
Hopefully, with empathy, you can put yourself in the shoes of a secularist or non-believer, even temporarily, and realize that to many of us, you base your entire life off of a work of fiction. Follow that thought for one moment. Wars are fought over fiction. Laws are made over fiction. People were executed because of fiction. And the list goes on.
I don't intend insult, so hopefully you won't take it that way, but I think that if both sides could put themselves in the other's shoes, even for a short bit, we could more easily communicate.